Rainwear & Dating

[ShinyRainGuy]

So I've been a Raingear Lover/Fetishist pretty much since I hit puberty. Its never felt anything other than normal to me, but I've always kept knowledge of this to others to a minimum since it is quite a nice fetish in Wider society.

I've found it causes problems when dating though, because its primarily viewed as a Gay Male fetish. Now dont get me wrong, over the years its led to some incredibly fun and intimate conversations with guys over the nature of what turns us on as Rainwear Fetishists, but it doesn't lead to play because finding Females (even to an extent, CD/TG/TS guys) with an interest in Rainwear and Bondage seems near impossible.

How does everyone else here deal with their Rainwear fetish when dating? I've found hiding it simply doesn't work because ultimately, its a very strong motivator for me, and there's only so long if you are dating someone before they're catch you staring at someone because they're wearing a nice piece of raingear.

[blackmacjay]

I, too, share the rainwear fetish and my female partner does not share the same feelings. She feels that her many mackintoshes keep her warm and they spare her the effects of wind or drafts.

And that is good enough for me.

[rainwear-experience]

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[ShinyRainGuy]

"because its primarily viewed as a Gay Male fetish"

By who? What evidence do you have to back up this claim?

My obvious answer would be the number of people I speak to on Here , on Fetlife , and on Regnfrakker. I can count on one hand the number of people who list themselves as Straight and have a Raingear Fetish. I can count on the other hand the number of women I know with this particular fetish.

I think you've misinterpreted how I view my fetish here. Its not all encompassing, life ends if I can get geared up level of fetish.

Its something that, as you say, in a balanced relationship with an open minded partner is fine. But my experience of locating people with said fetish, for conversation or dating, tends to lead towards Gay Males.

I completely understand that there are a number of straight males with this fetish, some with very accommodating partners, but if I looked around Fetlife for this specific fetish, I would find the majority of profiles in that category. This isn't a negative regarding rainwear, its a negative, solely for me, in trying to find a female partner with that interest. It makes for some fascinating conversations regarding Rainwear, but thats it.

[Deleted User 5375]

It has been my experience that the best you can hope for is tolerance. Date and build a relationship first. Definitely no rainwear on a first date! In a true relationship where you are loved it would very unlikely that your fetish will be totally denied, but the love has to build first.

[annabell-cagoule]

I don’t agree that it’s a gay male fetish predominantly, a quick straw poll here would say otherwise, i think alot of guys unable to find a female partner for their fetish will chat to other guys though but not actually go as far as meeting for rainwear sex.

[Shinyhood]

I don’t agree that it’s a gay male fetish predominantly, a quick straw poll here would say otherwise, i think alot of guys unable to find a female partner for their fetish will chat to other guys though but not actually go as far as meeting for rainwear sex.

100% agree. Definitely not a majority gay thing. I dont get where that comes from. Throughout my long life, prior to meeting my current parner, I have always been pretty up front about my likes in new relationships, and never found it a problem. In fact, i have enjoyed some lovely, wonderful and fun rainwear times, and all have been long term relationships. I think, making it part of me, not taking it seriously, has always made it easier, kind of accepting? Im fortunate to have a partner of many years, who is fine with my 'fetish'. Im also fine with hers. Three wardrobes full of clothes she never wears, and 60 pairs of shoes and boots. For a women, that is considered normal. I also have a 10 car collection. So what. Does that make me a metal fetish? I think most people, especially on here, miss the point. Its something you do. Or want to do, because you like it. Probably 90% of guys on here, hide it away because they are afraid of what other people might think. Most people nowadays dont give a damn about YOU! I walked down Oxford street, midday, 5yrs ago to test myself. To see what response I may create, wearing my shiniest vinyl hooded mac..... with hood up, and not one........ Not one person commented, sneered, laughed or pointed. But amazingly, dozens yes dozens, mostly women at that, smiled, rather nicely, and a couple gave me the thumbs up. The word fetish is now old fashioned, you should all now accept what you are and who you are. My wife doesnt tolerate what I like, she has learned to love what I like because it makes me happy. I buy her shoes because it makes her happy. She loves me because of our mutual understanding. Whats more it hurts nobody. The sooner you realise that your own personal feelings and desires are just that, personal, and that nobody else cares, the sooner forums like this will be filled with happier comments about how wonderful wearing rainwear out, as the norm, is!!!!! Winters coming.....try it!

[WealdenMac]

Never had much real success. Worst experiences, a long time ago now, were along the lines of, partner at the time-"I love you. You can tell me everything" Explains, gently and hopefully considerately. "Ugh! That's disgusting. You're dumped (or words to that effect).

[spitfire617]

There are only two times I have had comments.
1) Christmas 1988 I bought the now ex wife a Dannimac Blue pvc raincoat which she promptly said she would not wear as it was "Slutty"
2) 2003 I bought my ex partner a Pacamac type raincoat for emergency use. "I would never wear any thing like that" was the qoute.
But she was not adverse to wearing sexy lingerie of various types and materials.

[Raincoated]

Wrong wrong wrong! You cant make someone wear what you want until they understand YOU. Buying them what you like is like them buying you a corduroy jacket! (Unless you of course like them!) Its a nurturing process that takes time and patience.